Second chances are always appreciated in our lives whether it’s a second chance at a relationship or a career or to rebuild. I can honestly say I have gotten a few second chances in life especially after my Suicide attempt in 2007. At that point in my life which I was in my mid-twenties I didn’t fully appreciate my life and what I had to offer. I was sucked into a life of self-pity, depression and anxiety. I know that today many live like that of all ages and it’s hard and unfortunate when you don’t see your true beauty.
My Second Chance in the waiting
It was difficult for me growing up, because I was constantly being told how worthless I was by a grandfather who we lived with most of childhood into an adulthood. This affected my relationships with others especially when it came to making friends as I was also bullied as bullies could smell fear in me which followed me for many years until a few years ago I lived in fear. Fear of failure, fear to never live up to a being a good father and husband. I still care about those things but not to the point where I am stricken with fear I have a healthy understanding of what that should look like. I know I am going to fail, make mistakes and really blow it times but that doesn’t take a way from who I am and what I strive to do and who I strive to be because all of us are a work in progress.
After my failed attempt on my life, I rebuilt and attempted to start over by trying to refocus but really it took years to do that. One of the people who encouraged me, pushed me was and is my wife to this day and she is one of the main reasons I believe in second chances, because she allowed me to see the beauty in life.
You see for a good portion of my adult life until my late twenties I was alone, even though I tried to date, meet people I was always rejected, which I account was due to my confidences and my weight which ballooned at times due to my overindulging on the account of my depression and anxiety. I struggled for many years until 2021, I lost over sixty pounds and feel healthier, happier and more content than I have ever been. But sadly in 2023 when I lost my job, lost my mind and overcome with stress, that weight crept back, losing my healthlyness, my state of mind in seeing myself in a good light, having gotten my depression under control finally, but that seemed all lost. Although I have been married since 2010 and have my daughter 2013, I was never truly content with myself and our life because I seeked more, better job, more money, better living situation and being a better provider.
Today I am not saying life is perfect, but it’s much more manageable than it has been in the past and I see life moving very quickly.
As you see I have gotten a few second chances and so can you, but sometimes you need to seek it out and the powers a be will provide them to you.
I guess what triggered this post was a song I was listening to called “Second Chances” by Shinedown, here is music and video below.
Remember that we are going to blow, sometimes really blow it but that’s ok, cut yourself a break and begin again and again and again as each day is a redo to be better. It takes work and time, but we can all get there.
Looking Within
Remember to look within you and see your gifts and value even if others don’t tell you, you have them but self-reflect often on what those are. I wish these are lesions I would have thought of at those points in my life where I struggled the most and hope those who read this will find comfort in these words.
Go out an be amazing like the amazing person you are and believe that you are unique and special, go out and get life!
As I self reflect that when this post was originally written in 2022, I was surely had a different point in my life, I can honestly say I was at my happiest, but in 2023 that all changed. There are many who don’t let job losses affect their ability to live a happy, fulfilling life, despite the adversity but that is not me as I lost my grip in life, quickly spiraling out of control. I look back at the time and hope I can get back to that point again, get my weight back under control, feel like the finances are okay and not feeling like I am always try to keep my head above water, this has been my reality for over two years now, as I am on the verge of giving up. Fortunately I have my daughter and wife who I look too and have motivated me, but in the end they deserve so much better as a husband and father, but I regress, life goes on and I need to learn to accept the reality of my life right now. I always have been the glass half full mentality, things will get better, this is temporary which are temporary mental shifts and they do help at times, but also prayer knowing there is God who is seeing all of this and has everything in control and that this is all apart of his plan to allow this in my life, a lesson…a another lesson.
There are second chances for each of us, truly, but we often times need to be patient, take the good and the bad and allow the adversity in our lives, although naturally we try to fight it, often times fighting it only makes things worse, just accept the current reality, do your best to recover and move on and in a time from now like a few months, a year you can look back and see how you were able to recover, only signifying how strong you truly are and were during that time in your life. Second chances are a gift, but we can get many second chances, often as many as we need until we get things right. These have been my moments, my healing, my change of perspective, my growth. We all have our seasons in life, although I would love to have a season of financial prosperity, a windfall, breathing room for once, something I have not had for years, but I know its coming or at least I hope it is.
Believe or not second chances are life changing, often not huge but small , which add up over time, until we look back and hopefully realize the growth we have experience over all the second chances, that is true beauty, that is life.
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